What You Think About All The Time Is What You Get In Life
If you think mainly positive thoughts and expectations, you naturally attract good, positive things, people and events to you. And if you hold negative thoughts and expectations, you attract negative experiences.
But the amazing thing is that if you know how, you can “program” the universe to respond to your wishes and desires. Amazing as it may seem, this is how the Law of Attraction works.
By using some special techniques, you can create your reality. You can do this by attracting the things, people and places you want in your life towards you.
The conditions under which you can do this are defined by some universal laws of existence, creation and attraction. And the appearance in your life of what you want is called manifestation.
How Law of Attraction Can Work For You
The single most important thing determining what you have, what you attract to yourself, and what your future holds for you, is your belief system – in other words, what you believe to be true about yourself and the world around you.
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
He was right, too. What you believe about yourself and the world becomes your reality, in effect your destiny.
So what are your beliefs attracting to you?
If you believe you’re unlucky, it’s a fair bet you’re attracting misfortune. If you believe that you aren’t attractive in some way, or that your worth as a person isn’t very high, it’s likely you’re in a poor quality relationship.
And if you believe you don’t have much to offer, or you feel worthless, or if you think your destiny is always to be poor, then guess what? You’ll be struggling financially and you’re probably not very well off.
Maybe you learned these things as a young child by seeing how the people around you behaved, or by taking on their beliefs about the world (and you) without questioning them – because, after all, that’s what children are genetically programmed to do.
Perhaps you can remember hearing your carers or parents saying things like “The rich get rich and the poor get poorer….!” (If so, which of these groups did they belong to? Rich or poor?)
Or you might have heard that “money is the root of all evil.” So money is bad, you conclude, and as a child you decide you’d best stay away from it!
On the other hand, you might write off your life situation as bad luck, but believe me, luck has nothing to do with it.* The problem is, most of the beliefs which control your life are out of your awareness.
They are held in the subconscious mind, and the subconscious never questions the truth of these deep-seated beliefs. However, these beliefs govern how the universal laws of attraction operate for you.
*Sidebar: As one man said to me, “I lost my job because the company closed. How can that be bad luck?” Well, sh*t happens, for sure. But perhaps what happens next, after the company closes, depends on how much control you believe you have over the world. Some will give up, sink into despair, and believe they have no chance of ever finding another job. Guess what?
They never work again. Others, who have a different belief system, will somehow find new employment…. and then they might say “I was so lucky.” Well…. no. As the great golfer Arnold Palmer said: “I find the harder I work, the luckier I get.”
The Law Of Creation
And Law Of Attraction
These are simply alternate terms. Some people prefer to say “creation” because this more directly links your actions and your beliefs to the end results around you. It’s a more powerful way of reminding you that yes, you do actually create your reality.
By contrast, the word “Attraction” emphasizes that you actually can get what you want in life by using some ancient principles and techniques.
When you do certain things, in a certain way, this universal law will allow you to manifest exactly what you want in the world around you. And as you probably know, the word manifest just means “to make appear”, to create, or to produce as a physical reality.
And of course what you see around you is your reality, for good or bad. And although you might not fully understand how you’ve managed to do it, you’ve created that reality.
Creating your own reality is your divine right. If you don’t believe in God, then think of it this way: manifestation is a natural human attribute.
In other words, you have the power to get what you want. Whatever you want.
Somehow, for better or worse, we humans have been given the power to create our own reality. And one of the things you can do straightaway to work out whether you’re creating a positive reality or a negative reality around you is this: look at the words which you use to describe your life.
Do words like joyful, happy, successful, fulfilling, positive and delightful feature in your description of the world around you? Or do expressions like boring, pointless, difficult, hard, a waste of time, fruitless, unfulfilling, unsuccessful, and other negative words fit your reality better?
My question is: well, what kind of reality do you really want to attract?
Now don’t get indignant. I know you’ll probably say, “What you mean? Of course I want a positive and successful life that makes me happy!”
Most people do, though I’ve noticed a lot of them immediately go on to explain why they can’t have it: “Yes, I want a nice life, but with my salary, what can you do?” “Yes, I want a great relationship, but you can’t trust men.” “Yes, of course I want a well-paid job, but I don’t have the qualifications.” And so on, ad infinitum.
Is that what you do? If it is, perhaps you can see why you never get what you say you want? Why does the Law Of Attraction never work for you?
The reason, as by now you might have realized, is that whether you know it or not, you’re running a set of beliefs which are leading you into negative, unfortunate, maybe even difficult and challenging situations. And it’s possible, even likely, that you’ve actually been running your life on the basis of beliefs which other people gave to you.
For example, when it comes to making money, you may say: “It’s hard to make good money without a good job and they’re few and far between these days” or “Making money is difficult when the economy’s tanking.”
And it’s also possible you hold more subtle beliefs you’re not even aware of, beliefs that come from your family and cultural background. These are the beliefs which tell you something like “People like us never get rich” or “We’re always going to be poor because that’s just the way it is for people like us.“
Years ago, when I did this work, coming from a poor white Anglo-Saxon Protestant working class culture as I do, I eventually discovered that I held a deep-seated belief about the “virtuous poor”. Uh-ho, indeed. The virtuous poor?!! You mean, being poor makes you a good person?!!
Are You Actually Attracting Poverty?
It’s not easy to work out where this concept comes from, although I believe it’s either from Karl Marx, the founder of communism, or from the Bible, where I seem to remember we find something like”It’s easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven.”
Well, in my view, talking of the virtuous poor is just an excuse for a family culture where the actions and expectations of the people in that culture lead naturally to poverty: devaluing education, falling prey to alcohol and drugs, disappointing employers, having no sense of planning or self-discipline, being feckless or incompetent, never growing up emotionally and certainly never taking responsibility for what happens, and so on.
Not that I’m blaming people in that category – I can hardly do that, because many of these things featured in my own family history.
The point I’m getting at is this: if you have deep-seated beliefs of this kind, no matter how much you try to make the universal and very real law of attraction work for you, you will always fail.
And your values – what you hold dear as life principles – matter too. There’s no getting away from this. The subconscious mind knows your truths: so, if you believe poverty is a virtue, then no matter how much you apply the techniques that can make the law work, you will never get rich. (Or if you do, it won’t be long before poverty reasserts itself….)
Similarly, if you believe you are a person of low worth, you’ll never get rich. That’s because there’s a direct link in our culture between our sense of self-worth or self-esteem and how rich we are. We measure, at some level, our personal worth in financial terms.
And if you think money is the root of all evil, and your values center on being good, guess what? You’ll never be rich.
And if you believe that somehow you are unattractive, but you want to be in a personal relationship, the best you can hope for is a partnership with a person of an equal level of attractiveness – or lack of it. That doesn’t sound like a recipe for happiness to me! As you know, you can only love others when you love yourself.
The good news, of course, is that you can change your beliefs and your values: they are not immutable. And when they change, the law of Attraction begins to work in your favor.
You can work on them in many different ways, so they change, and as they do, you’ll find yourself able to manifest whatever you want in life.
Bear in mind, the Law is an immutable, unchanging, eternal and universal principle behind our ability to shape reality.
Finding Out What You Really Believe
If you’re keen to use the principles of the law to change your life, then the thoughts and words that you use in everyday life MUST match the reality which you want to create.
Your clues are in what you think, say and believe.
When you make statements that are contradictory or oppositional to the kind of life you want to create, you reveal beliefs and values (which are, after all, just another definition of reality) that you absolutely need to put down, leave behind, and replace with more positive beliefs which will get you the reality you want.
And don’t despair at the challenge! This is a path to personal growth: and the best way to foster your own growth is not to look back at the negative experiences which might have led you to the place you are in now, but instead to use the tools which are available to you right here, right now, to learn how you can consciously live your life with a new set of beliefs and definitions.
Remember, only by holding a set of positive beliefs, definitions, and expectations, can you possibly hope to manifest a positive reality!